OK ladies and gents, listen up! If the pretty half of your sailing crew isn't reading this - she should be! We can't emphasize enough how important it is for this to be a shared adventure. Ok, there can be blue jobs and pink jobs, but for everyone's enjoyment of sailing, it is important that you both participate and become comfortable with all aspects of handling the ship. Yes ladies, you do need to know how to empty the port-a-potty - but you don't have to do it every time. (OK, we ladies all know some tricks to get out of jobs like this.) Likewise, gents, you need to share the fun! Our comfort and pleasure has been enhanced because Mike has encouraged me to take the tiller, hank the jib, raise the sails, drop the anchor, and pull the cord for the motor (again ladies, you don't have to do this every time, but it sure is reassuring to know that you can do it if you have to. Powerful stuff!). I now feel more comfortable being in control which makes me feel safer on the boat. It amazes us how many couples that do sail together have one crew and one passenger. This just doesn't work for us. I need to know that I can do what is necessary if Mike should go overboard or become ill. And, it makes sailing fun when I can take the tiller, make the decisions on course and sail trim, and actually get where we planned to go. When Mike pulls the anchor, which is usually my duty, he can understand what I am talking about when I say, "It is hard to put the retaining pin through when we anchor." He can then come up with a solution.
|Sarah and Brenda in control on Lake Carlyle, IL.|
You may enjoy reading Suzanne Giesemann's It's Your Boat Too: A Woman's Guide to Greater Enjoyment On The Water.